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I met with Deborah Dilman yesterday for a consultation. I have been the survivor of severe, over a decade-long, ongoing domestic violence, and I have sought help for years in FL without receiving any. I have a fake tooth due to being assaulted by my ex-husband while I was in the shower trying to wash my hair. He didn't like me to wash my hair when it was inconvenient for him. So, when I finally just decided to wash my hair when I wanted to (and not to get his approval first), he literally beat me relentlessly over my head and face while I was just standing there in the shower begging him to stop. That is unfortunately only one of countless incidents that occurred for over 10 years, and it still hasn't stopped yet.

I came to NC to follow court orders to the best of my ability (while at the same time trying to escape a terrifying and devastating domestic violence situation). Unfortunately, on several occasions during my consult, Deborah focused on the few ways that I was "not following the court order", and she even went so far as to say that she thought that my ex-husband and I were both "doing a bad job." I have sadly been in the position to literally have to put myself between my ex-husband and my children to protect my children from him. I have been beaten and attacked numerous times, and when I reached out to the police and DCF, they ignored me and my children. I suppose it's easier to believe that the nice, well-dressed, professuonal, college-educated, calm, polite, middle-class white guy than it is to believe the hysterical, traumatized, beaten, shaking woman of color (nevermind the fact that she has far more education than the perpetrator does).

I do believe that Deborah sincerely meant well, but as a survivor of longterm, ongoing domestic violence (and even more so as a woman of color), I face challenges in this life that she can't imagine. And, to repeatedly suggest that I "talk things out" with a man who was willing to beat me so savagely (and who was able to get away with it with impunity) is naive at best and a bit insulting at worst. Nearly everything she suggested, I already tried. My ex-husband is relentlessly cruel and abusive, and trying to reason with someone like that is fruitless (and, if it goes on for too long, it is also ultimately devastating and maddening). You don't reason with a person like that. You can't. It makes me wonder how many of Tedd Bundys victims were able to reason with him.

Great company and great people, answered all my questions and concerns in a timely manner. Highly recommended!

Theresa is nothing short of an angel. Not only does she have true mastery and a wealth of knowledge when it comes to family law, but she and her team possess caring, compassionate hearts as they always listen to everyone who is in need of their services. If you or a loved one is looking for legal counsel, Modern Legal is the number one place to go when family and the law collide.